The Ten Commandments
The Ten Commandments
¬ A Royal Law of Love
¬ First Commandment: What Is Our Greatest Priority?
¬ Our Dependence on the God Who Created Us
¬ Second Commandment: What Is God Like?
¬ God's Many Names Reveal Much About Him
¬ Third Commandment: From Profanity to Praise
¬ Fourth Commandment: Key to a Relationship With Our Creator
¬ Fifth Commandment: A Foundation for Success
¬ How Should We Treat Parents Who Are Difficult to Honor?
¬ Sixth Commandment: Life Is a Precious Gift
¬ Seventh Commandment: Protect the Marital Relationship
¬ Eighth Commandment: Practice Giving Rather Than Getting
¬ Ninth Commandment: Truth as a Way of Life
¬ Tenth Commandment: True Righteousness Comes From the Heart'
¬ The Ten Commandments in the New Testament
¬ Does the New Covenant Abolish the Commandments?
¬ Grace, Faith, Law
¬ Christ's New Commandment
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How Should We Treat Parents Who Are Difficult to Honor?

Sadly, not all parents or grandparents are honorable people. Properly respecting those whose behavior is less than honorable is not easy. For instance, victims of persistent verbal, physical or sexual abuse usually find it difficult to honor the guilty parent. God does not demand, in the Fifth Commandment, that children of such parents continue to subject themselves or their children to mistreatment.

Still, we must honor our forebears. How can we honor parents or grandparents whose behavior is unworthy of admiration? How can we apply this commandment to them?

First we must deal with our own attitudes. Jesus tells us to love and pray even for our enemies (Matthew 5:44-45). This applies to parents who have mistreated us or whose example we cannot respect. We should harbor no hate or malice toward them. We may strongly disapprove of their way of life. We may disdain their sinful behavior. But we must not despise them as persons. That is where God has drawn the line for us, and we are blessed when we stay on the right side of the line.

Next, when we have occasion to converse with or about our parents or grandparents, we should refrain from derogatory remarks and treat them with courtesy and respect. We should pray that God will help them understand the error of their ways so they can be reconciled to Him and through Him with us.

Finally, we should conduct our lives in a way that honors them through the example we set as their sons and daughters. Our own proper behavior can bring them honor they have never earned.

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